After Infidelity and Domestic Abuse Severs a Marriage, One Woman Finds Purpose in Her Pain.
At least 60 percent of married couples will experience infidelity in their marriages, according to Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr., a licensed psychologist in Minnesota. One woman who has personally experienced both infidelity and a subsequent divorce, but in that process found purpose in her pain, is Bekah T. Baker, mom, life coach, author, and speaker. In her new release Built to Break (Redemption Press), Baker candidly shares her tumultuous journey of escaping the pit of perfectionism and people pleasing to gaining freedom and taking ownership of her life all while managing the trauma she had endured from the decisions of her husband – Trauma that almost cost Baker her life.
In this raw and redemptive story, Baker tells how she found absolute healing and peace in Christ after discovering she was in a deceptive and codependent marriage. She endured years of emotional abuse, manipulation and infidelity that took a toll on her mental and physical health. However, Baker says, “It’s not about what my husband did to me. It’s about what God did in me.”
“I’m broken. You’re broken. We all are. That’s the point.” Baker says she realized, “Our authentic life begins the moment we embrace both our brokenness and our inability to fix it on our own. Only then can we be beautifully put back together so much better than before. Just like the Japanese art form of kitsukuroi, where gold is used to repair and showcase the cracks, now our flaws and broken places are proof of our healing – Shining scars filled with the gold of God’s grace.”
The Northwest mother of four who is a voice and advocate for women facing difficult transitions says, “This is my story–the real, redemptive, heartbreaking, beautiful, shattering, painful, joyful story. Remember, our cracks are the proof of our journey. The gold is the proof of God’s grace. We were Built to Break.”
|Real…raw…redemptive. Bekah intimately and courageously shares how God brought her through a time of immense pain, disruption, and disillusionment to give her a new understanding of how he was working to redeem her life. Built to Break is an emotional and powerful read that deepened our faith in God’s goodness and grace.|
Dr. Craig Hendrickson, Asst. Prof. of Pastoral Studies and Dr. Mary Hendrickson, Asst. Prof. of Pre-Counseling, Moody Bible Institute
|Built to Break is a real-life example of Romans 8:28. A testament of how God worked ALL things for good in Bekah’s life. As her Pastor and friend, I’ve had a unique perspective of her journey to wholeness. I believe that journey is not just for Bekah, but also for anyone who has experienced pain and is willing to do the hard work of running hard into God’s ways.|
Jodi Cameron, Champions Centre, Executive Director/Campus Pastor
|Anytime someone finds their own voice there’s so much freedom. Built to Break is written proof of that fact, as Bekah Baker pours her heart and soul into overcoming her past and not allowing the pain to hold her back.|
Rock Paper Scissors Foundation exists to offer healing and resources to victims of abuse. We look forward to seeing how others will be positively impacted by Bekah’s story, inspired to find their voice, and take action towards their freedom.
Kristal Clark, Rock Paper Scissors Foundation, Founder